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Local Gyms and Studios Offer Virtual Workouts PDF Print Email

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By Katharine Outcalt

Apr. 1, 2020: As the coronavirus outbreak has forced the closure of all non-essential businesses to maintain “social distancing,” many are suffering the shuttering of their beloved gyms, fitness studios, personal trainers, and sports clubs.

Understanding the need to maintain daily exercise routines, particularly during times of stress and uncertainty, studio owners and fitness instructors are making the shift to offering their programs online.

Here are some of our local fitness and wellness businesses that are offering virtual workouts during the coronavirus emergency.

Pure Barre of Bronxville has a live streaming account, purebarrenyclive, where clients can use their monthly membership or non-members can purchase $49/month unlimited access to the classes. If you are not a current member of Pure Barre, email CLOAKING  with your name and phone number to get started.

Orangetheory Fitness in Tuckahoe is offering its members live classes on Instagram every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 12 noon. The user name is @orangetheorytuckahoe. Those that are not members can CLICK HERE for free 30-minute daily workout videos.

Yoga Haven of Tuckahoe and Scarsdale is posting live and pre-recorded classes on their online daily schedule. They are accepting class cards and drop-ins. CLICK HERE for more information.  They have also created two free downloads to share with the community to help address heightened anxiety.  There is a 5 minute centering and 15 minute guided relaxation.  Those are available here:  

5 Minute Centering

15 Minute Guided Relaxation

Bronxville Wellness Sanctuary is offering virtual yoga, meditation, and energy clearing classes through their website. CLICK HERE to view their daily schedule and book a class online.

SoulCycle has an Off the Bike section on their Instagram page @soulcycle that lists daily workouts.

Fitwalk_Fitness is live-streaming a variety of classes for all levels. All you need is a set of weights and a mat for most classes. To try a free class, CLICK HERE.

Adam Feldman, a local CrossFit Level 1 trainer is offering workouts via Zoom. Contact  Adam at (845) 304-4719 or email  CLOAKING  to get started. 

Enjoy your workouts from the comfort of your home and remember that our local fitness studios are small businesses that need our support as their doors are closed. Consider purchasing gift cards or their merchandise online or suggest a donation class via Venmo to your studio owner.

Photo by J. Murrer



 
Photo of the Week & Event Cancellations PDF Print Email

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Creative Celebration of a Birthday in Bronxville During Social Distancing

By Staff

Apr. 1, 2020:  MyhometownBronxville will be featuring a "Photo of the Week" as well as event cancellations, postponements  and other announcements during these unusual times. Please email relevant information to CLOAKING by the Sunday prior to our Wednesday issue date.

Event Cancellations & Postponements:

The Counseling Center: In a spirit of solidarity, The Counseling Center is postponing its gala benefit honoring Doug Cruikshank, originally scheduled for Friday, May 1st. We sincerely hope you can join us on the new date of Saturday, October 17, 2020 at the Bronxville Field Club. Meanwhile, be well!

Bronxville Rotary Club:  Pursuant to Government Policy, The Rotary Club of Bronxville is postponing its Annual Benefit scheduled for April 24th, 2020.  Under these fluid circumstances, no future date is scheduled at the moment. We thank you for your continued support, and wish you and your families GOOD HEALTH.

Senior Citizens Council: Due to the current health crisis the Senior Citizens Council 50th anniversary benefit scheduled for April 23 has been postponed until October 15. All plans continue to move forward. We wish all our neighbors good health in this trying time.


Photo by N. Bower

 
Letter to the Editor: Thank You NYP Lawrence Hospital For Your Great Care PDF Print Email

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To the Editor,

Apr. 1, 2020: I want to express my sincere gratitude to the heroes and health professionals at NYP Lawrence Hospital.

Because of the great care and attention I received there, I was lucky enough to get back home after 6 day stay with Corona Pneumonia.

I am thankful for this great life-saving resource in our community and the brave and selfless folks who put themselves at risk every day for those of us infected.

It all starts at the front line in the ER with security and check in, the doctors and nurses in the triage, to the custodians who clear out all the contaminated waste.

The great staff on the 5th floor who I will never be able to identify and all the people who contribute to making a difference for each patient. Know you made a difference. And yes, thank the kitchen staff too!

What you don’t realize while you are in isolation is that any health care personnel who come to see you in your isolation room has to get specifically suited just to enter.

Once in your room, they cannot go out of the room without disrobing the safety suit and leaving the contaminated outfit in the trash by your door. They do not want to contaminate the rest of the hospital.

Because of this, they need resources like masks, guards, gloves, and these suits every time they come in. That is several times a day as they take vitals, give medication, check blood work, and deliver meals, etc.

After they leave you, they do it all over again for other isolated patients. By the end of the day, they are exhausted from all the work and changing. They strive to be as efficient as possible with their limited resources, all while providing great care.

They never complain and only ask how they can help YOU get better. Never mind all the unknowns on the virus and the personal risk and impact it might have on these professionals.

I will never fully appreciate the dedication and professionalism of these doctors, nurses, and staff gave to me.

I would not be able to recognize them on the street due to all the layers they are dressed up in when I saw them, but I can recognize their selflessness and great contributions to our community.

Thank you all! You make us proud.

Michael Sands

Bronxville Resident

Editor's note:  MyhometownBronxville does not fact-check statements in letters to the editor, and the opinions do not necessarily reflect the thinking of its staff. Its objective in publishing letters to the editor is to give air to diverse thoughts and opinions of residents in the community.

 

 
Gung Ho Gardener: Gardening is a Perfect Place to Stay Six Feet From No One PDF Print Email

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Liriope before it was cut

By Neely Bower

Apr. 1, 2020: The Gung Hoe Gardener finally has a captive audience. When you are finished doing your virtual studying and working online for business, look outside.

We have had many unprecedented spring days, and our yards and gardens have exploded with color. This says to me that it is time to start working in the garden. What a perfect place to stay six feet from no one.

March is the time to prune your trees and your shrubs that do not bloom, such as Taxus, Hollies, and Boxwood. Do not prune Azaleas or Hydrangea macrophylla (large blue or pink flowers) because they bloom on old growth. Hydrangea paniculata (tall white cone-shaped flowers) can be pruned now because they bloom on new growth.

Also, cut back any grasses and perennials that you have left up for winter interest. I spent the other day cutting my Liriope (lilyturf or monkey grass) to the ground (pictured). The new growth is coming up under all their old leaves, and if you wait too much longer, the new growth will be damaged. For large flat areas, I use a lawnmower, but a weed wacker and pruners will also do the job

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Liriope after it was cut; new growth can now come up

Now that we have all gotten so dependent on our computers, gardening has become so much easier. If you are not sure what to do, Google it.

Hard work outside on a beautiful spring day will definitely clear your mind from all the troubles going on around us.

Photos by N. Bower

 
Local COVID-19 Report: Latest Stats: CBS 2 News in Bronxville PDF Print Email

By Staff

Apr. 2, 2020: Coronavirus COVID-19 continued to spread rapidly in New York State this week. 

New York State COVID Statistics

According to the New York State Department of Health, as of April 2, 2020, at 4:01 PM, there are a total of 92,381 positive cases in New York State. 

There are 51,809 cases in New York City, 11,567 in Westchester County, 10,587 in Nassau County, and 8,746 in Suffolk County.

Click here for a full breakdown by county.

CBS 2 News in Bronxville

Over the past week, Chief of Police, Christopher Satriale, and Mayor Mary Marvin have urged Bronxville residents on numerous occasions to practice social distancing to reduce the spread of COVID-19. 

Yesterday, CBS 2 News reported that a number of Bronxville residents were "out and about" rather than practicing social distancing. The news channel also reported that Bronxville has a higher per capita rate of COVID-19 than Yonkers.

Click here to view the CBS 2 News video report.

Other Local COVID-19 News This Week

On March 25, 2020, it was announced that a Bronxville School staff member tested positive for COVID-19. The school closed the school grounds. Click here to read more

On March 26, 2020, Bronxville Chief of Police issued an audio message urging residents to self-isolate and notifying them of cases in Bronxville, including an 18-year-old resident. Click here to hear more.

On March 27, 2020, Eyewitness News Channel 7 reported on Chief Satriale's urging to residents to observe social distancing. Click here to read more.

On March 27, 2020, Bronxville Chief of Police and Mayor Mary Marvin issued an audio message thanking residents for donating personal protective equipment, and for improved social distancing, Marvin also urged residents to support local merchants. Click here to hear more.

On March 28, 2020, Governor Cuomo announced that he was issuing an executive order to move the presidential primary election from April 28 to June 23rd, aligning it with the congressional and legislative primaries.

On March 28 2020, Governor Cuomo announced that the state tax filing deadline will be pushed back from April 15 to July 15; the federal government had already pushed back the federal filing deadline to July 15.

On March 28, 2020, Governor Cuomo's office announced that the state will dedicate specific hospital facilities as COVID-patient only.  The announcement stated that "the state has identified three sites — South Beach Psychiatric Facility in Staten Island, Westchester Square in the Bronx and SUNY Downstate in Brooklyn — that will provide more than 600 beds specifically for COVID-19 patients."

On March 29, 2020, Bronxville Chief of Police, Christoper Satriale, sent an audio message reporting that the case total for COVID-19 coronavirus had more than doubled in the last week and that he expects the number to continue to rise when test results come in. He also reported that police officers will deliver food and medications to senior citizens and urges social distancing for all. Click here to read more.

On March 30, 2020, Governor Cuomo reported that the first 1,000-bed temporary hospital at the Javits Center is open and accepting patients.

On March 30, 2020, Mayor Marvin and Chief Satriale announced that they will be sending out a "joint message" every Monday and Friday and in between if needed.  Chief Satriale reminded listeners that the following parks and facilities are closed: village parks & playgrounds, village tennis & paddle courts, Scout Field & the baseball field. Special programs for seniors and first responders are also discussed. Click here to read more.

On March 31, 2020, Bronxville Superintendent, Dr. Roy Montesano, informed the Bronxville School community that students will continue distance learning during the week of April 6, which was originally scheduled to be Spring Break. 

Photo courtesy Bronxville police department

 

 





 
NewYork-Presbyterian Doctor, David Goldberg, Explains Social Distancing PDF Print Email

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By NewYork-Presbyterian Health Matters

Apr. 1, 2020: You’ve probably heard the phrase “social distancing” by now — either on social media, from family or friends, or from health authorities — and might have questions about what it is and how it works.

Put simply, social distancing is the idea that to slow the spread of the highly contagious new coronavirus, you need to maintain a certain distance from people. 

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends social distancing as part of its strategy to stop community spread of COVID-19, and the White House, in its most recent guidance, supports this tactic by recommending things like working from home if possible and avoiding restaurants and gatherings of groups of 10 people or more.

Health Matters spoke to Dr. David Goldberg, an internist and infectious disease specialist at NewYork-Presbyterian Medical Group Westchester and an assistant professor of medicine at Columbia University Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons, to ask him to explain why social distancing is important in the fight against COVID-19 and how you can incorporate this practice into your daily life.

Why do we need to practice social distancing?

Most coronaviruses, including the new coronavirus that causes the disease COVID-19, are spread by respiratory droplets produced by coughing or sneezing. 

Research indicates that respiratory droplets do not travel more than 6 feet, so it is recommended to keep a distance of at least 6 feet between you and other people to help stop the spread of this virus.

Is it OK to go outside for a walk or take my pet to the park?

CLICK HERE to read the rest of this article on the NewYork-Presbyterian website.

To connect with a physician from NewYork-Presbyterian Medical Group Westchester click here.

Photo courtesy Health Matters


Editor's note: As a public service, MyhometownBronxville publishes articles from local institutions, officeholders, and individuals. MyhometownBronxville does not fact-check statements therein, and any opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect the thinking of its staff.

 

 
 
Invitation to "While We’re Apart" by Christ Church Bronxville PDF Print Email

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By VIncent Preti, Communications Director at Christ Church Bronxville 

Apr. 1, 2020: While we’re apart from one another helping to flatten the curve of COVID-19, we invite all in the community to join us on our new webpage, aptly titled While We’re Apart. The webpage includes various digital resources to help us keep faith and community at the forefront while we are unable to physically be together. Here are some highlights:

Daily Livestreams: On Sundays, at 10:00 AM, we are holding livestream services directly from Christ Church. We are fortunate to have much of our staff living in the parish complex, enabling us to offer these services, live music, and sermons to the community. The bulletin is published weekly on our website and sent out through our parish newsletter. Additionally, every weekday we are livestreaming our Noonday Prayer Services and a Musical Meditation at 12:00 PM.

Church School at Home: Though Church School isn’t in session, we’ve created Church School at Home, weekly step-by-step lessons centered around Biblical stories. Each lesson includes video instruction, cartoons, prayers, and interactive crafts. There are two lessons released every Friday: one for younger children in the Godly Play Class (ages 3 - 1st grade) and one for older children in the Godly Dialogue Class (2nd - 6th grades). Although the lessons were designed for those age groups, all children (and all adults) will certainly be able to follow along and take something from both lessons. We encourage parents to follow along with their children and get the whole family involved! 

Classes for Adults: Periodically, we will be holding Zoom classes. Our first class will be a two-part series on the power of Holy Week as story, liturgy, and a model for life in these times. The class begins on Wednesday, Apr. 1, at 7:00 PM and will continue the following Wednesday, Apr. 8, at 7:00 PM. A Zoom link will be provided on the While We’re Apart webpage. 

Weekly Digital Schedule:

-Sundays at 10:00 AM: Sunday Livestream from Christ Church

-Monday - Friday, 12:00 PM: Noonday Prayer Livestream and Musical Meditation from Christ Church

-Wednesdays at 7:00 PM - Short Series Zoom classes for adults

-Fridays: Church School at Home activities distributed

We will soon announce our digital schedule for Holy Week and Easter. Stay home, stay safe, and remember that you are always in the loving presence of God.

CLICK HERE to visit the While We’re Apart webpage.

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel.

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our Parish Newsletter

Photo courtesy Christ Church Bronxville


Editor's note: As a public service, MyhometownBronxville publishes articles from local institutions, officeholders, and individuals. MyhometownBronxville does not fact-check statements therein, and any opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect the thinking of its staff

 

 
Bronxville Real Estate Market in "The New Normal" PDF Print Email

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By Cindy G. Landis, Brokerage Manager, Bronxville Office of Houlihan Lawrence

Apr. 1, 2020:  Hello Neighbors,

I hope each of you is healthy and managing to cope with the extremely difficult circumstances that have become "the new normal" for the time being.

Fortunately for Village high-risk residents, Bronxville's "essential" merchants have teamed up with the Village Police Department to make life safer and easier. Mayor Marvin, Chief Satriale, and Superintendent Montesano deserve high praise for their well-planned approach to this situation. It does take a Village.

As realtors, we are deemed non-essential, which simply means agents are working from home using social media, email, and old fashioned phone calls to stay in touch with clients about the market in Bronxville.

The first quarter of 2020, although not quite complete, shows a lack of supply, although demand from buyers is solid.

The many reasons that make Bronxville such a highly desirable place to live and raise a family still matter: a top-notch school system (ranked the best in Westchester), a short commute to New York City, a sense of community with beautiful period architecture and a bustling downtown - all within the confines of one square mile.

These factors, perhaps more than ever, are relevant as people living in more densely populated areas are re-thinking their lifestyle choices under the circumstances.

What is happening during the quarantine as far as real estate goes?

Web traffic is up! Frustrated buyers are shopping online and reaching out to agents more than ever, and of course, there are no public open houses on weekends.

Understandably there have been a few hesitations as some buyers want a moment to assess, but two houses went into contract this week in the Village.

Other accepted offers are happening. There are hurdles, of course: building department files may be inaccessible, and inspections on new deals present issues to overcome. The situation is fluid and changing from day to day as restrictions are lifted or enforced. Overall, the situation feels more positive than not.

This past week there were 72 closings in Westchester County. Although it requires creativity and persistence, closings can happen with pre-signed documents, or power of attorney, and using Zoom conferencing for remote participants to join. Naturally, for those present, the glove protocol is in effect. Indeed, it is a strange world.

I welcome inquiries from any of you and wish all of you the best in weathering the storm that is COVID-19.

I look forward to things returning to "the old normal" and expect that Bronxville will most likely rebound as soon as restrictions are lifted and "things are safe."

In the meantime, maintain your social distance.

Warmly,

Cindy Landis


Note; Cindy Landis is Brokerage Manager of the Bronxville Office of Houlihan Lawrence

Photo courtesy Houlihan Lawrence

Editor's note: As a public service, MyhometownBronxville publishes articles from local institutions, officeholders, and individuals. MyhometownBronxville does not fact-check statements therein, and any opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect the thinking of its staff



 
From The Mayor: Please Complete Census; Please Support Local Merchants PDF Print Email

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By Mary Marvin, Mayor, Village of Bronxville

Apr.1, 2020:  To all my neighbors,

I started writing this column Sunday night, (after cleaning out a cupboard and disposing of a bottle of peanut oil that had expired in January 2016!) and I was going to speak solely on the issues of the upcoming national census and our Village budget for 2020 -2021 that is due on May 1. These items, so front burner just four weeks ago, seem to pale and justifiably so in the wake of COVID-19.

April 1 is actually National Census Day, and I do ask you during our enforced stay at home time to take a moment and fill out the form online, which takes approximately two minutes. It affects national and state financial disbursements and congressional representation and will have major fiscal ramifications until 2030.

Currently, approximately 1/4 of Village residence have filled out the form. This is average but not terribly good. For everyone not counted in the Village, it is estimated we could lose $1,200 in annual aid from an aggregate of programs, many directed at seniors and health services. Village Hall staff is here to assist, even remotely, in completing the form.

Our next budget year’s documents are due to the state by May 1, and as yet, we have received no extension or grace period. Thanks to an incredibly fiscally conservative board trustees that currently governs the Village, together with our Village Administrator and Village Treasurer, who are vigilant at overseeing any spending, we have an extremely healthy reserve fund that will get us through this financial downturn and help to balance out shortfalls.

Clearly, of most importance, is how the Village as a whole survives the current world-changing health crisis. Knowing that we are in a truly seminal time in life’s history, I went back to read about the Village’s response to other major events, most specifically World War II.

Villagers sold more war bonds per capita than any other community in the nation, harvested record amounts of vegetables from all of the Victory Gardens seemingly in everyone’s backyard, and again collected a record amount of needed metals, in some cases by literally ripping copper gutters off their homes for donation.

Now may be our chance again to be the community that follows Winston Churchill‘s guidance, “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”

Our vegetable gardens and war bonds of 2020 are donations to charities in need who all had to cancel their benefits, or to our merchants who need us to buy gift cards to survive, our restaurants who count us to keep ordering and of course our first responders who need our support now more than ever.

It is not at all surprising, but truly gratifying, to know that examples of generosity truly are contagious in our Village.

Just a smattering of examples include Park Place Bagels sending breakfast to hospital staff; Sarah Lawrence College housing hospital staff in their dorm rooms; the Junior League continuing to feed first responders and the various email chains throughout the Village, most notably that thread created by Irena Choi Stern, that are taking on the task of aiding our merchants and our hospital.

The Village’s own police officers who are working tirelessly for us 24/7 are buying lunch for the EVAC staff and Lawrence Hospital emergency room staff this week.

“Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.”-Albert Camus

The Village Board of Trustees, in partnership with the Chamber of Commerce and our Police Department, has just created a program to give back to both our local businesses and our first responders.

You can buy a gift card from a Village merchant and direct it to go to one of our four first responder groups - - Lawrence Hospital staff, EVAC, the Bronxville Police Department, and the Eastchester Fire Department. To observe the social distancing rules as much as possible, our police officers have volunteered to periodically pick up the cards from our businesses and deliver them to the appropriate person at each headquarters.

We are all in this together!

The hope is that generosity can be contagious.

Photo by A. Warner

Editor's note: As a public service, MyhometownBronxville publishes articles from local institutions, officeholders, and individuals. MyhometownBronxville does not fact-check statements therein, and any opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect the thinking of its staff.





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Coronavirus Anxiety & Facing the Unprecedented PDF Print Email

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by Jennifer Naparstek Klein, Psy.D., The Counseling Center

Apr. 1, 2020: New York City restaurants offering only takeout, trains nearly empty, schools closed, college kids home, office workers telecommutingfears of coughs, sneezes, or touching handrails or doorknobs--we have never seen anything like this before.  

September 11, 2001 may be our nearest reference point, but mostly what we felt that day, and in the weeks following was shock, andnew normal--our country at war with terrorists. 

However, unless you were directly impacted by the loss of a loved one, within a week, your life slowly resumed. Businesses reopened, kids returned to school, we went back to work, the gym, the market, restaurants, movies, malls--we went back to life, perhaps emotionally scarred but back to normal.

This return to normal, I suspect, will happen again in the case of Coronavirus (COVID-19), but the wait will be longer--perhaps a month, perhaps more. This cessation of routine --for some, losing work, earnings and the threat of a deterioration of business; for our children a breakdown in their schedules and a need to make a major adjustment to online education; and for the elders in the community downright fear of exposure and illness. This situation is unprecedented. So, the question becomes, simply, how do we cope?

Let's begin with the reality at home. Not only are we all thrust together, but all individuals in the house are wondering how they will navigate their new routines. Routine is probably the key word. Humans thrive on routine, so the best thing we can do to manage chaos is to create a new routine.  

Working regularly with those suffering with depression and anxiety has taught me that routine and self-care are vital to emotional well-being. For example, sleeping your usual amount, not more or less; eating at prescribed times, not all day long; being productive during certain hours, not loafing all day. 

It is certainly nice to take a staycation, but after a while, we need to feel productive; it is actually therapeutic. 

Productivity can be defined differently by each person. (Parents should resist the urge to impose assignments on children who are 12 and older; rather ask them for a list of what they want to accomplish and build from there.) It's advisable to choose a few activities that have been on the back burner for a while; now, you may have time to accomplish them. 

Binge-watching some video series may be on the list but, of course, that should not be the list! Also, it's good to keep up hygienic care--shower, get dressed, do the usual grooming, for a sense of health and well-being. And, of course, physical activity, which releases natural endorphins, is advisable.

Most people, especially those who are prone to anxiety and depression,will benefit from being outdoors in the sunlight. Families can do this together, or if solitude is what you need, take turns and support each other's efforts to self-care.  

In my work with tweens and teens, I am typically not a fan of excessive use of social media. Despite the connectivity it affords its users, it can create stress and cause relationship ruptures between peers. 

But during this crisis requiring social distancing, I am amending my take on it. Our tweens and teens need to know how their friends are feeling. 

They need to share their own experiences and hear them validated by their peers. The common fear of being left out of gatherings should be reduced to a minimum since most people are, or will be, keeping their children home.  

Therefore, chatting and laughing, sharing what they create while home--music, art, poetry, videos, etc.--and celebrating birthdays virtually, etc. will be important for tweens and teens. It won't be ideal for them to spend all their time on social media, texts, and phone interfaces, but maybe some time each day, if they choose to, so they can stay connected.

One caveat is that the internet contains some alarming, and sometimes grossly incorrect, news and memes about Coronavirus (COVID-19). If your teens and tweens seem upset by what they are seeing or hearing, encourage them to take a break (the same goes for you!). Similar rules apply for COVID-19 as for academic research and current events--check your sources. Trust only reliable sources, and discard anything that feels like hearsay.

By the way, teens may loudly express a desire to get together physically with friends, but this is not advisable. As their adults, we need to protect them and the community. Remember that teens and young adults have a developmentally appropriate sense of omnipotence and egocentrism, so it's up to adults to set these difficult boundaries--and enforce them.

Frankly, parents of young children are the ones for whom I am most concerned. The comforts of routine are bound to be terribly disrupted--preschools and elementary schools closed, nannies and babysitters afraid to travel, the usual places of comfort like climbing jungle gyms in parks, or music and art classes, or sports activities, all canceled.

Parents may be home from work, and suddenly becoming early childhood educators on the fly, or spontaneous elementary school teachers, or at the very least, facilitators. Co-parents in these circumstances must support each other--create a tag-team approach. Take breaks. Try not to fight with your children over schoolwork--these are not ideal circumstances, so in the Fall, primary educators will be bound to do a great deal of "review."

Just remind yourself that you don't need to be a super parent, just a "good enough" parent, the clinical term coined by D.W. Winnicott, one of the fathers of child psychology. Your child needs you to be good enough, not perfect.

Sample schedules for families are being circulated on Facebook and elsewhere that might be helpful to some parents, but they can make those who are overwhelmed feel inadequate. This crisis is new to all of us, and the key is finding a rhythm that works for you.

My advice for the good enough parent is to combine what your children need to do for school with what is in your wheelhouse, and what you already enjoy doing with your children. What are their talents and abilities, or their "wheelhouse" activities? If you like to cook, then cook with your children. If you love music, put on some music and listen, or dance. If you like quiet activities, then do those, and if your kids become bored or disinterested, release them. You will not be evaluated on how well you did--there will be no scorecard.

One additional piece of advice: be forgiving of yourself and your family. Every one of you is out of your normal routine, and there are certainly additional stressors for each family. Financial concern is a common stress point for adults under normal circumstances, and during this crisis, that stressor is bound to be on red alert.

You'll be arguing over trying to get children to do chores or to exercise, but you will really be feeling the stress of trying to get work done while caregiving, or not being able to work at all, maybe losing some of your usual income, or the uncertainty of what work will look like after this crisis is over. So, be gentle with each other, and use your intuition. If your family needs to relax rather than stick to a prescribed schedule, do what feels right.

Finally, stay connected. Stay in touch with your friends and family. Take care not to become isolated. If you are feeling stressed, check with friends-- I'll bet they feel stressed too.

Here at The Counseling Center of Bronxville in Westchester, we are available for teletherapy on an as-needed basis for our community, so feel free to reach out if we can help.

Pictured:  Jennifer Naparstek Klein

 

Photo courtesy The Counseling Center

 

Editor's note: As a public service, MyhometownBronxville publishes articles from local institutions, officeholders, and individuals. MyhometownBronxville does not fact-check statements therein, and any opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect the thinking of its staff

 



 

 

 

 
Adrienne Smith Abroad: A Ship to Somewhere - Part 4; The Refunds Begin PDF Print Email

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Sunset at sea

By Adrienne Smith

Editor's Note: This is Part 4 of Adrienne Smith's cruise overseas.  It is recommended that you read Part 1, Park 2 and Part 3 first. 

Part 4

Apr. 1, 2020:  When I left off last week, our cruise from Singapore to Mumbai had been dealt multiple blows when all our remaining ports refused us entry.

We were in our eighth day aboard when the captain announced that, although we were headed back in the direction of Singapore, that port had also been closed to us.  

He sugarcoated this news by telling us that Silversea would be returning 50% of the fare to us as well as offering us a 25% reduction on our "next" cruise. Otherwise, we were in limbo as to our next, and perhaps final, stop.

You'd think that reclining in a pleasantly-appointed stateroom with a living area, balcony, and mini-fridge packed with anything I liked, would mean that life was good. Add in Asian, Japanese, Steak, Tapas, Italian, and "fine dining" restaurants of my choice, and you'd wonder, what was the beef? But uncertainty, as we all now know, can be quite an enemy.

After another day of sailing, el capitán came on the now-dreaded loudspeaker to inform us that we would now be heading to either Sihanoukville, Cambodia, or Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam, each port at the near bottom of said countries.

Looking up Sihanoukville, I discovered that it was named after an off and on ruler of Cambodia. I also found that it was a backpacker's delight, something that failed to fill me with quite the same enthusiasm. 

Looking up the hotel possibilities on booking.com, in case we were forced to abide there for an uncertain time, I found myself disheartened by lodgings called "Good Time Boutique" and "Easy Peasy," many with average daily fees of $24. I envisioned genetically oversized bedbugs that would devour me.

Ho Chi Minh City sounded like a much safer bet. It had fancier hotels and better transportation out. Also, I had been there twice before.

This change of plans required that we go through the Singapore Straits into the South China Sea, sailing NNE toward the possible spots. 

But then, joy, the captain broadcast that we were going to Ho Chi Minh City but would be dropping two passengers off in Sihanoukville. Must be something to do with those two later-boarding people, now gossiped to be Italians.

Next, I started to plan the wonderful things I would do in Ho Chi Minh City, where we would be docked for two days before flying home.

My planning in each instance must have been a curse because, once again, le capitaine came on with more information. No Sihanoukville. No Ho Chi Minh City.  

alt

An agent of Silversea had flown from Monaco to the latter to negotiate for us but to no avail. He, and we, would now be headed to Manila, a trip that would take 2-1/2 days.

Ok, why not Manila?  

Oh, and now the ante had gone up to a 75% refund.


Photos courtesy A. Smith

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